'We haven’t even lived in the house yet': First time homebuyers bombarded by freeloading friends just moments after closing escrow, they refuse to let them move in for free

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Mar 19, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

The first rule of homeownership is 'Protect your peace.' 

However, first-time home buyers accustomed to the ramshackle lifestyle of landlord specials, lousy neighbors, and painted-over electrical sockets hardly realize the importance of their home space. And although many of us still dream of homeownership, once the day arrives that we're handed a set of keys that are our very own, we don't know what to do with it. 

All we know for sure is that this home is ours—and only ours. 

So when the first-time homeowners in this next story were approached by the majority of their friends and family with tidings and congratulatory remarks, they were flabbergasted when they realized that not all of their acquaintances saw their home purchase as a solo victory. 

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  • My good friends from high school just recently bought a condo. Three bedrooms and two bathrooms all to themselves and a new plushie carpet to do summersaults and cartwheels all by their lonesome. However, to offset the cost of their mortgage, they immediately had a roommate move into the spare room. Sharing their new, exciting space with another person was a perplexing experience… And it's one money-saving decision I doubt they'd make again.

  • "We got an offer on a house, our friends asked if they can move in"

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  • My husband and I received the notice that our offer was accepted! We're super excited and started sharing the news with our close friends and family. One of our friends who
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  • is going back to school in our state said congrats and then said asked since the timing works out, can him and his wife come live with us for a year.
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  • My immediate gut reaction was no because we haven't even lived in the house yet and we'd immediately have to share the space with them. They also have not shared any plans of paying rent, helping with groceries, etc.
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  • I would feel like a huge a hle telling them no and having that uncomfortable confrontation, but something tells me as first time homeowners we'd be frustrated If we immediately let them move in when we haven't settled in ourselves.
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  • Also, I can't help but wonder what was their plan if we didn't get a house and still lived in our apartment... this just feels like they jumped on the opportunity of living somewhere free.
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  • Just looking for others opinions because I'm feeling pretty worked up about it.
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  • FrameNo4349 DO NOT DO IT. do not let them move in. No chance no way. Take it from someone that's been there. Had a friend move in est was 6 months to get on his feet. It took 3 yrs
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  • and a gf to get him to move out. His stuff is still at my place 8 months later I keep hounding him to get his stuff out. He won't.
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  • It's the most frustrating thing ever. NTA don't invite him in. It may strain the friendship for a bit but it's better than the friend being a burden and straining it for a long time and you grow to resent them.
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  • I couldn't be comfortable or happy in my home. It will dampen your relationship with your husband Eta what makes it worse is he wants to move his wife in too
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  • (then she gets pregnant theyll guilt you about putting kids out on the street). You'll never get them out. If you tried to kick them out they'd try and pull squatters rights on you and take over. While your stuck footing the bill.
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  • Just don't do it op, keep your sanity. I was lucky our friend was a single guy. But he latched onto a successful woman and is now living in her place. He's not my
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  • problem anymore (well until he gets his stuff out, I'm about to pay someone to haul it away and send him the bill)
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  • teresajs NTA Just straight up say, "Sorry, no, we aren't interested in having tenants or roommates."
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  • S2Sallie It's definitely perfect timing, tell them your old apartment is for rent
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  • ReadTheRealms Okay, so you just got your dream house, and your friends are already asking to move in for a year. That's...bold. Look, you're right to feel put off. You
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  • haven't even had a chance to paint a wall or figure out where the couch goes, and they're already planning their year- long stay. Plus, no mention of rent? Come on. NTA for
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  • wanting your own space. They're definitely taking advantage, or at least being incredibly inconsiderate
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